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Wedding vows … or wedding vowels

Wedding Vows… or as some people call them “Wedding Vowels” which is technically in some sense correct because I find wedding vows are much more enjoyable and understandable when you use as many vowels as possible. 😂

So lets dispel some myths…and answer some questions that you might have.

How long can wedding vows be

🙋As long or as short as you like.

Can you read your wedding vows

🙋Sure can. You can read them off a piece of paper, an iPad, a little booklet (if you can be bothered). You can have them read to you by your celebrant or you can try and remember them (but let the celebrant have a copy anyway in case you get all the feels and forget what you wanted to say)

Who says wedding vows first

🙋Whoever wants to go first the most (normally the person most in fear of crying)

What are wedding vows supposed to say

🙋Whatever the hell you like. Its your wedding and these are YOU vows (remember we are not talking about the legal requirements of a wedding – we are talking about your vows)

What are good wedding vows

🙋No such thing as “good wedding vows” in a one fits all scenario. Wedding vows should suit your personality, your relationship and your wedding.

Are wedding vows legally binding

🙋Suuuure they are. (Again not talking about the legal requirements of a marriage ). And the wedding police 👮 will come and take you away if you promise to make your partner a coffee every morning and missed a day. – Im being sarcastic.

Ten Ways to Impress Your Celebrant

1. Be in ? – nothing gets a celebrant’s creative juices flowing like a couple who openly and honestly dig each other to the max.

2. Be inspiring ?– do some research, have some ideas to bring to the table, or better yet have a list of things you DON’T want too. This will help steer your celebrant as to how to best write your ceremony.

3. Be honest – Don’t say you like something they have written if you don’t. You don’t have to yell “THAT’S THE WORST PILE OF ? I’VE EVER READ!” but telling your celebrant “We’re not really happy with… blah” will again help them make the right changes so you get a ceremony you love.

4. Be yourselves – Talk about what drives you, what you are passionate about, what you do on the weekends, who you are as individuals and why you work as a couple. Those creative juices that were previously flowing will now be gushing like a teen at a Bieber concert. ??

5. Be willing to bend your budget. ? Some great celebrants don’t charge a lot. Some great celebrants charge more. If you have found the celebrant of your dreams then be prepared to pay what they ask.

6. Be aware that you may not be the only wedding a celebrant performs on that day. Keep your celebrant updated with your schedule ?? and tell them immediately if any of your details change.

7. Be flexible. A lot can be done over skype/facetime/phone and email. ?️? Face to face meetings are great but not always possible , you know celebrants have a personal life too.

8. Be open to suggestions and ideas. ? An experience celebrant has a lot to offer in terms of advice and nifty ideas, and not just to do with the ceremony but across the day.

9. Be trusting. You’ve hired the right celebrant – on the day have faith that they will do brilliantly for you.? They will. So why stress about it?

10. Be thankful – leave great feedback, tell your friends. Nothing warms a celebrants heart more than feeling they have given their all to a couple and it has been appreciated.???

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Cold Fish at your wedding [and how to deal with them]

You might not know this, but as a celebrant Im often aware, sometimes not everyone is super happy that a couple are getting married.

These people, known as asses to some and cold fish by me, are generally all about ruining what should be a beautiful, loving moment in a couples life.

And I have seen the iciest of cold fish in my 400 + weddings.

Often, unfortunately, its someone close to either the bride or groom, [groom and groom or bride and bride] who objects to the wedding and generally has to have their resting-bitch-face or screwed-up-i-smell-poo nose on.

It can be as subtle as a Mum and Dad standing awkwardly to the side, keeping to themselves and not glowing with excitement, pride and love or as obvious as a “They didn’t come to the wedding”.

Sometimes, they come to the wedding cos they think that is what they are “supposed” to do. That’s it is “the right thing” when really they suck all the fun out of the ceremony/reception like a giant fun-sucking gnat that they are.

So here’s my tips on dealing with Cold Fish ahead of your big day.

Don’t be afraid to UNinvite someome. If they are truly only coming to cause you pain, anxiety or distress – save yourself the energy and some dough and strike a big, fat, permanent marker line through their name.

Talk to them before the wedding. You want to be gentle but firm – like spanx. Tell them you’re glad that they are coming to the wedding, you understand they have *such and such* an issue but its your big day, it IS happening and they will just have to slap on a smile and get over it. [Feel free to be calling them all sorts of bad words in your head while you’re playing nice]

Try and avoid forming Cold Fish Schools. If Mum/Dad/person has any sort of issue they will naturally gravitate to other like-minded cold fish so they can spread their fishyness all over your big beautiful day. Plan your tables, seating, strategy to keep them apart and keep all your happy vibed up – excited for you – friends in on it too.

5 words – Blame it on the Boogie. That song is like a pot of pure liquid sunshine in an ipod. Anyone who does not get on the dance floor because “they just can’t control their feet” is not worth your time.

You know what…

Its your day, your time, your life. Screw them and get on with happy!

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